I am an Onion

The passing of our family ancient cat Ted. The passing of the season. The passing of a quarter of my regular income every month. There are many things have have come to and end recently  in my life, not all bad but not all particularly welcome, but changes nonetheless. Again, it feels as if my life is suddenly shifting in a series of small degrees which sends me on a slightly different tangent to whatever path I was previously following. I don’t feel melancholic… just like things have yet again shifted and I have to find my feet again.

Sounds deep, doesn’t it? It’s just sometimes it feels as though I’m bumbling along, trying to get things to work in the way that I want (and need) them to, and then suddenly something happens that forces my hand. Makes me have to reconsider things, make new plans, make choices.  This time, it’s mostly to do with work. I found out on Tuesday that I was to lose one day a week of regular income through no fault of my own – I was effectively made redundant, although I was working in a freelance capacity and had no contract per se to speak of. So the effect is immediate, and means a 25% cut in the work that I count as my ‘regular income’. For this month at least I have a grace period thanks to a freelance cheque that will be arriving soon, but after that I shall be digging deep to find some more work. And digging even deeper in my wallet.

So for now, the pressure is back on. Again.

You see, there are two things in my life that have held me back over the years. Lack of substantial funds (and I’m guessing that a good proportion of the population of this country are in the same boat), and my back. Work is going to be even more challenging, but that’s the life of a freelancer.

But with my back, things are at least changing for the better. I’ve started some physiotherapy, and it seems that after 15 years, we’re finally getting to the crux of why I’m constantly in pain, why I can’t work 5 days a week without being virtually crippled, and why I am the wobbly but essentially screwed up ball of tightness and stress that I am. My physio has described my ‘case’ as “very interesting” and “very complicated” and “widepsread”. She says my overall condition is like a big onion, where we’re having to peel away at each layer to get to the centre of the problem. And best of all, she says I am fixable.

You have no idea how that feels to hear those words. After 15 years of constant background aches and pains, as well as incidents where I couldn’t even stand up straight and walk properly despite only being only in my 20s, this revelation is like music to my ears. I am fixable. This isn’t the way it always has to be.

Apparently in some areas of my body, I have no muscle strength whatsoever, because somewhere along the line, something happened to a specific joint (I think) and knocked me completely out of kilter. So other dominant muscles have taken over, my body has tried to adapt to moving in a certain way and it’s causing all this pain and strain, lack of balance, and at times, immobility. Added to that, year upon year of stress (some self-inflicted, but at other times prolonged periods of things that happened to me and were simply out of my control) has turned me into a rigid, stringy ball of concrete. And apparently I don’t breathe properly, because of the way I’ve come to hold myself and move. So that compounds the problem. I can’t physically relax properly. I haven’t been able to physically relax for years. I’ve always felt out of kilter.

So we’re not only peeling back each layer, solving each physical problem as we go, but we’re building me up again. I’m going to get stronger and more competent, and I’m going to be able to relax. And sleep properly. The prospect of actually being able to consider full-time work, to be able to dig for more than 10 minutes without experiencing two days of back pain, to drift off to sleep without pain, to move freely and without caution as well as being able to actually relax my body (and hopefully, my mind), is just… well, I guess I feel relieved. Relief that it’s not just *me* and that there’s actually some tangible reason why I feel tense and awkward and jerky and off-balance a lot of the time. Believe me, I will be doing all that I can to get myself into the condition I should have been all these years.

So at least in one important aspect of my life, we’re finally moving in the direction that I want to go. And although I’ve taken a hit in the financial department, I’ve got to look at the opportunities it might present. I have a few things I’m looking into but for now I’ll just be working harder, longer hours and tightening my belt.  Much like a lot of other people around the country at the moment. Given the rising food prices, petrol prices and general living costs, it’s not going to be a walk in the park, but then it never has been for me. At least I have a roof over my head, food on the table and I’m an onion that’s fixable.

I think I’ve got that right?

Dreaming of Living by the Sea, Whilst I Work

The last you heard from me, July was a busy month and I was generally running around going “Arrggghhh! Stuff to do!!!!”. Halfway through August, that hasn’t changed one iota, as generally the list of Things to Do lengthens, and my freelance work remains (thankfully) steady. A couple of weeks ago, we managed to get away for a day to the beach in Suffolk. Walberswick, to be precise, and although it was a bit overcast and manky, in the evening we were lucky enough to watch the clouds roll away and be basked in the most delicious golden sunlight as we played games on the beach and ate from a barbeque.

The weekend after I went away with some friends for the weekend in Kent; again, we visited the beach – this time Camber Sands – and even though our afternoon jolly there was brief, after eating chips and curry sauce by the beach I was again convinced that it was a place that I needed to be.

Those visits to the beach cemented the idea in my head that I would very much like to live by the beach one day. There is something about the sea that really invigorates me and makes me feel settled and steady. I don’t think that I’d grow tired of it, either. With house prices the way they are, and no change on the horizon, it may well be a pipe dream, but one that I’m happy to hold on to for years to come.

It’s been a funny summer at The Smallest Smallholding really. I haven’t done that much. I always expect myself to be really busy doing this, that and the other but in a way it’s been Rich that’s taken the lead, mowing, cutting, watering, whilst I sit bog-eyed at the computer managing my little online business, writing and helping to organise this conference. There is quite a bit to do, but all in all things to seem to be taking care of themselves at this point – the chillis are slowly growing, the tomatoes are hanging around waiting forever to ripen, and the squash plants have LITERALLY taken over the greenhouse to the point where I can only step inside the door and go no further. I don’t mind really, because I’m hoping that the extra warmth in there will mean my squashes will grow to a good size, and there’s much less threat of frost damage that plagued so many of them last year.

I think with growing, the thing I look forward to most is the eating part. I do enjoy watching things grow from a tiny, inconsequential-looking seed into something quite magnificent, but it’s the part where you serve it up on your plate, knowing where you grew it, how you grew it, remembering all the effort that went into growing it… all that somehow adds to the feeling of satisfaction when you’ve finished. My ‘yields’ are very small, as there’s just two of us and I haven’t yet explored storing my fruit & veg yet (another one on the ‘To Do’ list), but at the moment I’m enjoying using my own garlic, onions and potatoes. These are three staple ingredients in many the easy, rustic dishes that I cook for myself, and there is definitely a difference in flavour there that I’m enjoying.

Our little patch of Smallest Smallholding is also proving to be a gold mine for feeding the rabbits, with grasses, thistle leaves, dandelion leaves and such providing free fodder, helping to keep costs down. I’m hoping that by autumn, with our squashes and leeks and carrots we’ll be able to do the same. Because we are limited on space, I tried to plant things that I would be using frequently, but also plant food that is maybe a little more expensive to buys in the shops. Whereas I can buy a £6 bag of good quality maincrop potatoes from our local farmer, growing them at home would take up valuable space. Leeks always seem to be quite pricy to me, and I use them a lot in my veggie dishes so it made sense to have my own crop this year.

Mum is lucky enough to share a field with her best friend, so she’s been growing her own food on a much larger scale than me. But then, Mum has more time to devote to it, so it works out for her and often, I’ll do a job for Mum – perhaps some painting, or fixing something, or some leaflets for her little business, and she’ll repay me with a vat of soup (or if it’s Rich, often Rock Cakes or Lemon Drizzle Cake) that means we don’t have to pay to feed ourselves for a couple of days (unless it’s the Rock Cakes, because they disappear too quickly). It’s all swings and roundabouts and it’s an arrangement I’m happy with.

So food aside, as ever there is plenty for me to be getting on with, but simply not enough hours in the day. I’ve booked myself off on ‘holiday’ in 3 weeks, just as the kids go back to school. We might head to the beach again with our tent for a couple of days, but there’s also lots of things I need to get sorted here in that time too. Repairing the window frames, weeding, and sorting the Mediterranean area to name just three. We’ve been umming and ahhing about whether to opt for gravel in the Med area, but we think for simplicity and because we have 6 million other things to manage and think about, we might grass it for now, and perhaps think about adding in a gravel path or stonechipped area later on when we have the resources and the time to spare. I’ll plant up my plants specially picked by Stephen from Victoriana Nursery Gardens in to get them established – even restricted in their pots, they’ve definitely been a target for bees and hoverflies this summer, and I’m looking forward to filling in the gaps once they’re in and rooted nicely.

So, in the meantime, it’s business as usual, with work and cleaning and not doing the weeding, and trying to keep the house from turning into a tumble-down fur pit and wondering when the car is finally going to go kaput and making plans for build a new shed because the old one is falling down and making sure we’ve got enough to pay all the bills and tackling the debt and looking for more, more, more work and on and on and on and on…